Marriage, that is what brings us together today. Marriage is a very complex topic that is interpreted by people differently all across the world. Now while all marriages are different, there is a common message that can help all marriages have success. This was stated by President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Russell M. Nelson. He said; "Meanwhile, mortal misunderstandings can make mischief in marriage. In fact, each marriage starts with two built-in handicaps. It involves two imperfect people. Happiness can come to them only through their earnest effort. Just as harmony comes from an orchestra only when its members make a concentrated effort, so harmony in marriage also requires a concerted effort. That effort will succeed in each partner will minimize personal demands and maximize actions of loving selflessness." This is a great message that will help all married couples no matter what stage of marriage they are in.
Every marriage disagreement, that is a fact, but the way you and your spouse deal with those disagreements will determine the happiness and peace of your marriage. The way that a married couple will handle disagreements all depends on what is best for both of their emotional wellness. For example, a husband once said; “My wife and both came from families where our parents argued loudly and vociferously with each other. We both disliked that, and we decided that we would not do this. We have very few arguments but when we do disagree, we make a strong effort to talk about things calmly and get the matter settled as quickly as possible.” As we can see from the story that this couple has found the way that works best to de escalate arguments and find a resolution to conflict. It is a fact that there will be problems and people should not feel as if the problems are a problem but in fact they are normal. It is how the couple deals with the problems and disagreements that will determine that strength of the relationship.
Another factor that assists in developing strength in a marriage during its early stages is intimacy. Whether it is sexual intimacy or the intimacy of a close friendship, this intimacy is very important to a budding relationship. Newly married couples have a strong advantage when it comes to intimate strength. The excitement of being a newlywed assist newly married couples in keeping a strong bond. They will be more open to sharing feelings both positive and negative. The remembrance of these early marital feelings can be very important for older married couples. As time goes on this excitement will wear of and the marriage will begin to feel mundane. As older couples find ways to add excitement back into their seasoned marriage the will begin to rekindle the feelings that the felt in their early marriage. This is often what makes the biggest difference for older couples in terms of the happiness to their marriage as they reach into their older years.
Marriage can be a difficult union. Two imperfect people working together to try and create a perfect union. This union not only affects themselves but that of their family, children, community and nation. The strength of families will determine the strength of a nation. Both young married couples as well as older seasoned couples must find way to effectively deal with disagreements and problems to maintain happiness and success within them marriage. As well young married couples and old married couples must also find ways to keep intimacy and fun part of the equation to have a balanced and happy marriage.
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